Nature: Normal, Nurture, Natural
Nature cannot be controlled. But by paying attention to its movement, carefully observing its behaviour and our experiences, we can develop an understanding about what its patterns, and how it changes itself, its environment, and us.
This isn’t ‘normal’ for what we humans do in our relationships. Ask yourself: How much energy do you waste trying to control someone else in order to avoid changing something even you don't like in yourself, something you know they feel is ‘unlikeable’?
The need to control is a need to be right, and it's a vicious brand of greed. It’s the why and the how that too many, too often find themselves sick, suffering in a toxic relationship.
Decide. Do you want to be loved or do you want to be right?
Love --loving-- is a choice.